Hello all! I’m so excited and pleased to share more details about my newest journal course, Cultivating Self Love. Many of you participated in my previous course, Experiencing Our Inner Critic. This course will be similar in style and delivery, but will have more content. I’ve also reviewed all the feedback I received from the previous course and have used it to enrich this one. I hope you’ll join us!
Before I dive in to the details of the course, I’d like to discuss why I believe self love is so important and a bit of my history cultivating this skill.
My History with Self Love
My journey with self love really began about 5 years ago, after the birth of my daughter. I was constantly telling myself whatever I did, it wasn’t enough. If I had a to-do list with 15 things on it and I accomplished 10 of them, I would mentally berate myself for the 5 I didn’t do. I was constantly dealing with the mental chatter of “you could do better”. I could be a better mom, a better wife, a better cook.
Not only that, but I found that I was extremely unhappy with life in general. At the time I blamed outward situations – where we lived, our neighbors, my husband, the weather – you get the idea. It took years for me to understand that the real reason I was unhappy with outward situations was because I was unhappy with myself. I judged others very harshly because I was also judging myself harshly.
It wasn’t until I started diving into the world of yoga outside of asana that I started to see glimmers of peace. I started reading spiritual books and actively trying to be nicer to myself. Not only did I feel better, but I was nicer to other people. I found myself judging others less when I judged myself less. I was more patient with my daughter and husband, and I finally allowed myself to be imperfect. What a relief it was to know and understand that it is ok to be imperfect!
At the same time that I was allowing myself more space to breathe and be at peace, I found myself embracing myself, just as I was. Letting ourselves off the hook for not being “perfect” is only the beginning. Once we acknowledge and embrace our imperfections we allow ourselves the space to just BE. We can be with ourselves as we are in the present moment without judging or trying to change.
Why Self Love?
To me the most obvious answer to this question is to be happier. Why wouldn’t we want to be happier? If anything, I feel that the only reason we would choose to be unhappy is that it is comfortable and familiar. This may seem counter-intuitive, but hear me out. Let’s say that for years you drove the same way to work. It was predictable, traffic was light, there were no school zones to have to slow down for, and it was the fastest and easiest way to get to work. One day on your drive you notice a sign that tells you they will be replacing water pipes starting next week, and this will last for 8 weeks and there would be lane closures. The sign also encourages you to take an alternate route. At this point you know that this route will no longer be the fastest or easiest way to get to work. Not only that, but traffic will be thicker, the road will be torn up, and your “easy” way to work will no longer be the least stressful route. What do you do?
The people that fear change will stick with this route even if they have to leave 15-30 minutes earlier than normal because of traffic. Those people may or may not allow themselves to get upset at other drivers or the situation that is totally out of their control. Why would these people do this, even though it is causing them avoidable distress? Because it’s comfortable and familiar.
Just as we get comfortable with roads, jobs, friends, favorite cafes, etc. we get comfortable in our regular mental states. Even if those mental states are obviously causing us harm, sometimes it can be more comfortable to stick with them. It is a natural human trait to fear the unknown, even if what we do know isn’t ideal.
Self love, and self acceptance, give us the power and confidence to move beyond what is comfortable/familiar, especially when we know that those thoughts/feelings/situations are not in our best interest. Not only that, but when we start to accept ourselves just as we are, it allows us to accept others just as they are. It allows us to be with others in the present moment, which is perhaps one of the greatest gifts we can give to a fellow human being.
Busting the Self Care Myth
Self love is far from selfish and I know that is a thought that many women have. We feel guilty for taking time for ourselves (self care), even when it is so clear that we desperately need time to recharge. If you are someone that struggles with the idea of self love and self care because you feel selfish when you take time for you, I encourage you to re-frame the idea of self love in your mind. Allow yourself to steep in the idea that when our cups are filled, we are better able to fill the cups of others.
Imagine your energy, patience, and love as separate ingredients that fill up a teapot. You use this teapot, full of the best parts of you, to fill the cups of others. You fill your partners cup, your children’s cup (which is much larger than expected in relation to their little bodies!), your friends cup, your co-workers cup, your pets cup, your homes cup… now, what’s left for you? In most cases, not much. So, how do we refill our teapots? With self love.
How do we practice self love? With self exploration: what do I need right now? With self care: a massage, time in a float tank, a meal out with a friend, time alone, a trip to the beach…. The possibilities are endless. Whatever allows you to relax, feel at peace, and recharge will be your chosen method of self care.
If this sounds like something you need or want, please read on for the course details…
Dates & Course Layout
- The course will run Monday September 19th through Saturday October 1st.
- The course is divided into 2 weeks, with a similar focus each week, emphasizing self compassion and working with our negative thoughts/beliefs.
→Week 1: This week will be all about self exploration. You will dive into your inner awareness and identify repetitive negative thoughts/self talk. Once you have identified some of these thoughts, I will guide you to shine the light of self compassion onto these thoughts, effectively changing them completely.
→Week 2: This week will be a time for reflection and acceptance. Self compassion will also be an important part of this week as we work to accept ourselves just as we are in the present moment without judging or trying to change ourselves or the experience.
- Each day, Monday through Friday, you will receive an email from me with a prompt to get your mind working on the days topic.
- On Saturday you will receive an email with some ideas/recipes for self care and some gentle encouragement for all you’ve experienced during the week.
- Sunday will be our rest days and you will not receive an email from me. I encourage you to take this day to rest and relax and not even think about the course if you find it difficult or you simply need a break.
- Each email will also have an original affirmation that ties into the days prompt. These are a gift to you from me and I hope they serve you and give you a bit of peace that you can revisit throughout your day or week.
Private Facebook Group
- Participation in this course will also give you access to the private Facebook group I have set up for these journal courses. This group will have participants from my previous course, Experiencing Our Inner Critic. Feel free to lurk or post as much as you want. In the group I also have a list of books that I have read and loved that all have to do with spirituality, self acceptance, and self love.
- If you have questions about the course you can email me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org or leave a comment below and I’ll get back to you as soon as possible.
- This is a topic I feel so passionate about; I believe that the best way we can help to heal our planet and it’s people is by first healing ourselves…that is why this course is free.
And finally, I have an amazing opportunity for those who are interested…. Did you know that I offer online nutritional counseling? I also offer virtual private yoga sessions where I will talk with you about your goals and/or limitations and design a yoga class just for you. I can also record a custom guided meditation, talk to you about self massage, and more.
If you have ever been interested in working with me online or in person, now is your chance to do so for free.
All you have to do is share this course with friends or family that you think would enjoy it.
When you have 3 people sign up for the course and list you as the “referred by” individual, you’ll be automatically entered into a drawing for a free 30 minute session with me.
As soon as you have 3 people sign up that put your name in the “referred by” field I will write your name down for the drawing. If you are chosen I will contact you directly via email and we can set up a day and time to work together via Skype or FaceTime! (Pop over here to read my testimonials!)
That’s all for today loves. Below is the sign up form. Enter your contact info and you’ll receive a welcome email soon. Blessings for a great rest of your week ♥
Registration for this course is now closed. Thank you for your interest.