Do you have a constantly-running tape in your head that tells you you aren’t good enough? How about one that only tells you how ugly/fat/unworthy you are? Or maybe that voice is in constant judgement of others – the way they dress, walk, talk, eat, etc. All of these “voices” are manifestations of Ego.
Our egos are leftover from many years of evolution and we used to need them to keep ourselves safe and to further our species. Now we aren’t competing for food, land, or mates in the same way, but our egos are still working full time as if we were.
The ego wears many disguises. The best way to find out what yours favors is to notice where your thoughts go when you aren’t actively engaged in a task. Or do you have a default line of thinking? Do you experience fear and feelings of unworthiness when you think about trying something new, think of asking for a raise, or apply for a new job? If so, one of your ego’s favorite guises might be fear.
I’ll let you in on a little something…my ego loves fear. Fear of not being good enough is the most common lie my ego tells me. I’m not knowledgable enough. I’m not smart enough. I don’t have enough experience…. This goes beyond the rational thoughtful responses like, “I cannot advise you on your recurring stomach pain because I’m not an internist” (one of my old students was repeatedly asking me about all of her aches and pains!).
Did you know that fear shows up in other sneaky ways not as obvious as those stories? Your ego is also showing it’s predisposition for fear-based thoughts when you judge.
When you judge others for being too fat, too skinny, too slow, too stupid you are really just projecting your fear of being those things. You are also recognizing that part of yourself that you think is fat, skinny, slow, stupid, etc.
My next question: do you feel unworthy? Fearful? Full of judgments? The first way to go about changing the things you don’t like is to first acknowledge them. You cannot change that which you do not know exists so after you acknowledge these thoughts and feelings the next step is to honestly examine your inner world, your thoughts/emotions, and see where you find yourself feeling fearful or unworthy.
Another function of my ego is anger. This has improved immensely over the years, but I still do get angry over things that aren’t worth being angry about. Bottom line: I get angry about my expectations not being met. Maybe you do to? I actually think that almost all anger arises out of our expectations not being met (with a few exceptions).
Think about it. What events/people/actions make you angry? For me it’s things like people being inconsiderate while driving or my daughter not listening. If I dive just a bit under the surface I see that I expect other drivers to be considerate of everyone else on the road and when they are not it triggers an angry reaction. I expect my daughter to listen and when she doesn’t that also triggers an angry reaction. Those are my 2 most common triggers, but I know they are not unique to me.
And now if I’m 100% honest with myself and peel back another layer I can see that even my anger in these situations can be traced back to fear. Fear for my daughter’s safety when she doesn’t listen. Fear for my safety and the well-being of my personal property when other drivers are unsafe or inconsiderate. And another very common fear that we don’t always like to admit is the fear that we are not being heard or understood. Could it be that I fear not being heard when my daughter doesn’t listen?
You see where I’m going with this. We are all different and all have things that trigger our fear and anger. It only takes a bit of digging to see what’s really triggering these low vibe emotions.
We all feel jealous at some point. Jealous that someone gets to take a trip we don’t, jealous of the neighbors lawn/car/house, jealous that some people can eat whatever they want and not gain weight, jealous that a peer makes more money than we do, etc. etc. etc. The list goes on and on. Jealousy is something that also stems from feelings of lack, or if you prefer, fear of not having enough. Again, I think you see where I’m going with this.
Now I challenge you to get really honest with yourself. Does your ego make you think you aren’t enough? Is your mind plagued with fear, anger, or jealousy? Or is it something else your ego feeds off of? This is by no means a definitive list of ego manipulations.
It’s important to keep in mind that fear, anger, and jealousy are all low vibration emotions and when we spend a lot of time stewing in these type of thoughts and feelings we are actually blocking abundance from appearing in our lives. The ego wants to stay alive and in charge so it employs all sorts of dirty tricks to make sure it stays in the drivers seat. The best way to tamp down the ego is to recognize it for what it is and acknowledge these low vibe feelings. Ignoring them or denying them will only make them stronger and more intense when they do finally rear their ugly heads.
My favorite way to bring myself out of these low vibe energies is to practice gratitude. Not only does this make me thankful for all the abundance I am currently enjoying, but it also sets me up to acknowledge and accept more abundance in the future. Of course there are other ways to bring yourself out of low vibe energies so play around and find what works for you. Your active actions for high vibes might be singing, writing, running, walking, hooping, yoga, meditation, painting, surfing, hiking, swimming, dancing, and let’s not forget the simplest one of all that can be done anywhere and anytime – conscious breathing.
That’s all for now. I hope this makes you think about how your ego might be sabotaging your life. If you are interested in reading more about the ego and the egoic mind, I suggest Eckhart Tolle’s book “A New Earth”.
Many Blessings Friends